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The Advantages of Silicone Adult Toys

What is silicone? What makes silicone sex toys different from other adult toys available on the market? Silicone is a non active manufactured compound that has a similar feel to rubber and is heat resistant. It’s free from phthalates (substances added to plastics to make them longer lasting and more flexible) which are thought to harbour chemicals which may result in mutagenic and carcinogenic effects on the skin. Some less expensive sex toys in the adult marketplace still contain phthalates which could or could not cause harm to the skin.

Silicone Adult Toy Advantages

Silicone sex toys are usually made from superior quality medical grade silicone which is used in medical applications as well. Medical grade silicone is perfectly suited to the making of adult toys because it is strong and tough. Silicone toys for adults also have many other plus points when compared with less expensive alternatives. As previously stated, they do not have phthalates in them. They also have the quality of being silky smooth to the touch and are soft enough to be inserted easily but rigid enough to retain their shape and hence provide real satisfaction. Silicone adult toys are also odourless, tasteless, hypoallergenic, anti allergic, waterproof (therefore easy to clean) and non toxic. Their durable properties also allow them to be heated up, cooled down and even washed in the dishwasher! A number of toys for adults made from silicone come with the added benefit of having some flexibility meaning they can be made into different shapes bringing about an easier way to target your sweet spot.

Silicone Sex Toy Brands

There are a number of brands that famous for their assortment of silicone sex toys. Fun Factory Sex Toys are so uniquely styled that they have achieved awards for their innovative designs. Their high quality products include male sex toys, clit massagers, vaginal balls, anal sex toys and strapless strap ons. Tantus Sex Toys are also renowned for their original designs and quality products which are on the whole made up of vibrators and dildos that are suited for anal or vaginal pleasures, and butt plugs. The majority of their colourful adult toys have flared bases which makes them compatible for harness use.

How Much Can You Expect to Pay For Silicone Adult Toys

As with all high quality items sex toys made from silicone do retail at a higher cost than cheaper alternatives with a number of silicone adult toys having a recommended retail price of up to £100. Nonetheless it is possible to also get a good quality silicone vibrator, dildo or anal toy for around £20. It’s well worth paying the initial outlay if you reflect that while some cheaper adult toys could only last a few years, silicone adult toys are durable enough to keep going for a considerable number of years to come. The fact that they can be warmed or cooled (increasing the array of sensations you can experience) and are also waterproof are more advantages.

Porn Addiction, Porn Creep and Erectile Dysfunction (E.D.)

“Porn creep” is defined as “a condition that results from the constant or excessive watching of pornographic material. It is characterised by an inability to get an erection under circumstances that do not involve the watching of pornographic material.”

Erectile dysfunction (or E.D.) is the inability to develop or maintain an erection in males and is rampant in those with a pornography addiction in our Internet Age – far more so than was the case pre-Internet.

Disturbingly, what my 2 year research into porn addiction found over and over again was adult males who were not only virgins but who also suffered from extreme erectile dysfunction. Even more disturbing was that younger virgin males too – even those as young as 14 to 16 were also already suffering with erectile dysfunction.

Many males describe their “love lives” as being 100% pornography and that this had been the case since they first began porning when exposed to it in their younger years. These virgin men range in age from teenagers to men in their 30s. A few have sex dolls. One had 10 dolls yet had never touched a real live person. He was 20. Another virgin was 27, had erectile dysfunction and was being led to “total self destruction” masturbating with other people on webcams and also had never felt the sensual touch of another human being in the real world. Others were on Viagra yet still struggled to get or keep an erection.

One young man wrote “I’m 18 and a porn addict for a few years and have E.D. I started out watching straight porn, then lesbian porn, transgender porn, gay porn, bestiality, bondage, older women, young men and what have you. Am I gay? I’ve never ever felt any attraction to men before. I’ve even started going to the Ads. I don’t know if it’s due to the escalation or if I am secretly gay. It’s eating me alive. I’m a virgin.”

Sadly, many young men are caught in a catch 22 situation. They know their porn use is what is preventing them from getting into real live relationships yet are powerless to stop. This leads to cycles of extreme sadness, loneliness and often boredom which then drives them to do more porn which leads to more self loathing and helplessness. And so the cycle just keeps going round and around. One addict wrote “It’s a catch 22. I’ve never had a girlfriend so I feel lonely and do porn – then porn stops me from getting a girlfriend.” Another wrote “I always porn when I am depressed, sad, lonely, feeling rotten or feel that I will never get a girlfriend.”

Still others delude themselves that a relationship will fix their pornography addiction and E.D. problems. One addict wrote “I’m 23 now and my porn addiction started very early. I hoped that when I got a girlfriend that I’d stop masturbating to porn and it would solve the problem. However, I did get her and my body wouldn’t respond. It only wanted masturbation. It wanted me to sit in front of a computer watching porn. It’s been the loss of that girlfriend due to my disease which has triggered my own realisation that I am a porn addict.” Another addict wrote “Getting into a relationship will not “fix” my porn addiction. The fantasy is it will but it won’t as relationships are separate altogether to porn addiction and most likely the porn addiction will doom the relationship anyway. This is similar to thinking getting into a relationship will fix any addiction. It won’t.”

Other males know a relationship will not fix their porn addiction and become used to not having relationships in their lives. One wrote “I began porn at 12. Am now 19 and never had a girlfriend or date in my life. My love life is 100% porn. I know porn is the reason I’ve never had a girlfriend. You just get used to porn and don’t want to put the effort into getting a girlfriend. I also have no confidence either.”

One 24 year old virgin wrote the following deeply sad testimony… “I lead a terrifying double life that alienates angers and depresses me. Normal sex with a female no longer stimulates my mind. I get E.D. immediately. I’ve never been erect enough to penetrate and hence why I am still technically a virgin. Just to even try and have sex I have to fantasize about porn. I now have extreme loneliness and a detachment from the rest of the world. For a while I thought I must be gay and even came out to a couple of people only to find sex with men even less stimulating. I masturbate 3-5 times daily – increasingly in VERY inappropriate places – work, people’s houses, public bathrooms, airports, airplanes, restaurants, hotel rooms – you name it. The skin on my penis wears down causing immense pain that takes months to heal because I can’t stop masturbating. If I have the “itch”, I have to scratch it – no matter the setting. I stopped once for 13 days. Towards the end of that time, and for the first time since the beginning of puberty, the simple things about a woman turned me on – hair, smile, style etc. It was like a fog has been lifted. But on day 14, I relapsed and entered a major relapse and it was to be the darkest one yet. All that hope that I would be able to be with a woman vanished.”

Other addicts have the same frustrations. One wrote “I’m a 24 year old virgin. Been doing porn for 4 years. My view on sex has been altered by porn to the point that I need porn in order to get aroused. Being with real women just doesn’t arouse me. It’s driving me crazy.” Many men’s stories are similar to this mans.

For those addicts who are not virgins and are – or have been – in relationships or marriages – their stories are equally as distressing. One wrote “Sometimes I will watch porn before having sex as it is the only way I can get aroused and in the mood but even then I can’t keep an erection yet with porn I can no problem and can and do compulsively masturbate. Other than that I have no sex drive at all. I only ever have one night stands and never had a relationship where we were sexual on a continuous basis. I also masturbate VERY aggressively and VERY fast that is not replicable by a vagina.”

Men have trained themselves – through masturbation such as this man described – to only respond to a grip tighter than any vagina is likely to be able to grip. The penis nerves become over stimulated so now the man cannot respond to more subtle sensations. And many porn addicted men are becoming to know this all too well. One wrote “The masturbation effect is greater than the normal effect of sex and why my body doesn’t respond as it should. I can’t perform.”

One of the things which astounded me in my research was how the gay and straight loved ones of pornography addicts were always having to BEG their male partners for sex. This was unheard of pre-Internet and frankly more shocking in a way than a lot of things I came across in my research. Women NEVER had to beg men for sex pre-Internet. Quite the opposite in fact. It was often a running joke amongst females in particular how men were always hungry for sex and were a nuisance as a result and why the term “I can’t have sex. I’ve got a headache” was born. A woman only had to briefly touch a man and he would get an erection and want sex immediately. Women, in the end, became hesitant to even touch their partners due to their constant desire and need for sex. With women, in the main, being like water and needing to be warmed up slowly sexually before they are ready for sex (it takes a womans vagina 20 minutes to become fully aroused ) verses men who are like fire and need dosing down, the imbalance was ever prevalent between the sexes and why men were, at times, “nuisances”. Not any more it seems now we have the Internet and Internet pornography…

One man wrote “Sex with my wife is changing. I’m wanting to have sex with her less and less and want to be acting out my addiction more and more. She has commented that she frequently is the initiator of sex and I pretty much can never achieve an orgasm when I have sex with her. This has a compounding effect and I now seek orgasms exclusively from the pornography. I see my life slipping away and I see all the lost potential. I’m 26.” Another man wrote “I’ve got erection problems with my wife and in general and find myself withdrawn and down a lot of the time. I stop using porn and the erection problems go away and I think I’m okay now and go back to porn and they start again. It’s a vicious cycle.”

Another man wrote “I can get an erection very very easily as soon as I power up my laptop but cannot get one when having sex the normal way (porn use has been heavy for 6 years). Also when in bed with my wife I have to think of porn scenes to help me get and keep an erection.” Another addict wrote “I am a 28 year old gay porn addict. Porn filled my sexual needs when I didn’t have a sexual partner. Now I’ve met a man and my problem is I can’t get aroused when I am with him. I can only get aroused when I look at porn. I feel ashamed and a failure.”

Porn addicted men constantly describe how their libido with their partners is almost completely destroyed due to their pornography addictions. One man wrote “I feel as if my sex drive has completely gone to sleep unless I awaken it by looking at hardcore porn.” Another wrote “My porn and masturbation addiction has been going on for 16 years (since aged 13). Now when I try to have sex I lose arousal. I have a lot of suicidal thoughts.” Another young man wrote “I have, for as long as I can remember, been unable to climax during intercourse. This makes sex frustrating for me. Yet I can compulsively masturbate to porn.” Another wrote this common theme said over and over again in porn addicted people… “I find real sex disappointing and prefer doing porn to actual sex. It makes me cry though to think I would rather satisfy myself in front of a computer screen than with a gorgeous woman. It needs to end now.”

Another addict wrote “I established high standards of fantasy due to porn intake and now nothing will live up to my expectations in the real world and I can’t get aroused with normal sex.” Another wrote “I can’t get fully erect when I am with a partner. Sex is boring after so much fantasy.” Another wrote “I don’t feel the same high with real sex as I get from masturbating and porn.” Another said “I get bored with normal sex unless the woman acts in a porn way.” Another wrote “I’ve been addicted since aged 13-14. I’ve had sex 3 times – all with prostitutes and failed to keep an erection. I’ve never had a girlfriend.”

Another addict wrote “I don’t enjoy sex much. I’ve been addicted to porn most of my adult life. The advent of the Internet just made things tremendously worse.” Another wrote “I see sex and porn as 2 different kinds of orgasms and after watching porn, it feels like I have to rewire my mind to be able to climax during sex. If I hadn’t watched porn, I’d not have a problem climaxing.”

Another addict wrote “I’m 22 and my libido is almost completely destroyed. I don’t get turned on EVER anymore. It’s just started to feel like glorified urination – even during masturbation.” Another wrote “It’s escalated to scat (faeces) and urine porn. I can’t perform with real women and leave them wondering if there’s something wrong with them (not intentionally) then go home and gross out to a nasty video where I am erect in a second – then I masturbate and go to sleep. This is typical. I just want a good healthy sex and emotional life.”

Along the same theme, another addict wrote “It’s progressed to scat porn and other extreme fetish stuff. I started doing porn at 11 (am now 27) and despite how attractive a girl was, I couldn’t get a proper arousal.” Another said “I always need more “forbidden” porn to maintain an erection and orgasm. I’m 26 and never had sex or a girlfriend.”

This kind of testimony is written over and over and over again by pornography addicts. One wrote “I have weak erections now even while doing porn and can’t stay erect.” In response, this recovering man wrote this… “I had to constantly raise the bar to get my erections. The addiction makes you get bored very easily. I had to keep clicking until something triggered me to get erect. As you begin to stay away from porn, within even a month, normal erections return.”

One tormented addict wrote “I plan to marry my partner but am scared I am already experiencing issues with being able to stay or even get aroused and am scared it will only get worse.” Another addict wrote “My first sexual experience was very underwhelming after years of porn and masturbating. I’m technically still a virgin.” Another wrote “I’ve been doing porn since I was 12 and had my first sexual experience today at 27. It was not as exciting as I thought it would be and I never ejaculated. Is this to do with my addiction?” Another wrote “When I had sex with a beautiful woman, I found it (after 2 years of not having sex) PLAIN. It felt like “Is this it?” The coupling effect of 2 years without a woman (my choice) and the desensitizing effect of porn I think is what did it to me. Having sex with her just felt like work and nowhere near as easy and pleasurable as sitting in my chair over my laptop.”

Many addicts write time and time again that “It is easier to do porn than it is having sex. So is masturbation.” Many men also write things along these lines… “I have intimacy issues. It’s easier to reach out to porn than real people.” Or… “I’ve started to watch hardcore stuff like humiliation. The more I watch porn, the less emotions I feel towards finding a girlfriend.” Or… “Once I started Internet porn, my confidence around sex became so low I was almost afraid to do it. This still affects me today.” Or… “I find cybersex safer than risking the drama of a real relationship. It’s ruining my life though.” Or… “I’ve been hooked on porn since I was 10 when I found my father’s collection. I’ve been addicted ever since – 25 years. I’ve stayed somewhat single most of my adult life – an occasional date here and there. Magazines and videos were easier to have a relationship with than the real thing.” Another wrote “Pornography was my first love/ lust. I viewed it before I’d even come into contact with a woman.”

Along similar themes, another addict wrote “I’ve been watching porn since I was 12. I first found my uncle’s magazines and since then could not put porn down. From when I was young I never felt girls found me attractive so my porn addiction enabled me not to care about cultivating meaningful and intimate relationships with females. I am now in my 20s and feel the constant pain of being alone. Only cynicism and hate fill my heart because of the deep void porn and masturbation addiction have thrown me into. My life is a sham. As I see my friends get married, have children and enjoy life, I sometimes feel like I want to kill myself.”

Another deeply saddened addict wrote “As I ended up watching harder and nastier porn, my own sexuality became completely absent. What’s worse is that I’ve never had a girlfriend or sex so it’s confusing for me. I’m 18 and already feel like a 70 year old man who has erectile dysfunction. Now non-hardcore porn doesn’t arouse me and I need riskier and riskier porn to get aroused. I now need really really hardcore and nasty perverted porn to arouse myself. Watching porn over the years has destroyed my whole sexuality. I’ve tried to quit but it’s so hard. I feel ashamed because I really want to quit this whole shit once and for all. I want to have a NORMAL sexuality with a REAL girlfriend and REAL sex. I just have no idea how to get away from all this – every attempt to quit has failed.”

Yet another young addict said “I opened my first bank account to buy webcam credit. I’m 18. Paying for a girl to get naked makes me feel terrible. I’ve now met a real girl but can’t face cutting off web contact with this other girl on the webcam. When I get taken over again though I won’t care and that’s horrible. It’s a pattern that just goes on and on and will only get worse. I know that.”

Why Pornography Should Be Introduced and Critiqued In Sex Education Programming At All School Levels

The phrase love that dare not speak it’s name was coined by Lord Alfred Douglas. It first appeared in his poem, “Two Loves,” printed (in the Chameleon) in 1896. It’s a reference to homosexual love, in Lord Alfred’s case, of Oscar Wilde, who was subsequently charged with gross indecency. Homosexuality was a criminal offense in England and just about everywhere else in the 19th century. Today, there is another sexual outlet not so much forbidden as not addressed in polite or other society – a new form of love the name of which sex educators dare not speak: pornography.

This is most unfortunate: a new study suggests that while parents may not be aware of the fact, pornography is the leading sex educator of the young. Alas, the porn industry has no interest in serving a sex education function and certainly does not do so, at least not in a positive, constructive or healthy fashion.

Porn is pervasive, particularly where it is most highly censored. China, for example, is the world’s leading consumer of porn. Jerry Ropelato, author of “Internet Pornography Statistics” at the research website Top Ten Reviews, notes that $3,075.64 is spent on pornography every second of every day. In this one-second period, 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography and 372 internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. Two of the top twenty search terms are teen sex and teen porn. The pornography industry has larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined. Data from 2006 reported worldwide pornography revenues at $97.06 billion.

Australian researchers David Corlett and Maree Crabbe filmed 140 interviews with young people in what was called “The Reality and Risk Research Project.” They discovered that teens are increasingly turning to the net for sex education. (Source: Denise Ryan, “Teachers urged to address porn factor,” The Australian Age, February 13, 2012.) Porn sex education exerts a destructive influence in the lives of the young. One of the investigators said, “Every young person we interviewed told us that pornography is a significant part of youth culture and particularly of young men’s lives.” She added, “Pornography has become harder, rougher, more hardcore.”

Porn, as you might expect, does not commonly offer instruction in matters relevant to conventional sex education (e.g., the nature of contraception, the prevention of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, the value of intimacy, principles of effective relationships). On the contrary, what it inadvertently communicates to young men, according to “The Project” research group, is reckless, coercive and abusive treatment of women. There is an absence of realistic perspectives and a dearth of respectful treatment of sexual partners. In addition, sexual practices of an unsafe nature are commonplace. While informed adults may have the maturity to manage such depictions, teens with little or, more often, no sexual experience clearly do not.

Since parents usually cannot keep porn from being accessed one way or another or one time or other by their children, the more likely best strategy is to include porn awareness in sex ed instruction. This is the focus of efforts by “The Project” team. Several grants have provided the resources to prepare and test programs for use in training sex education teachers for varied school grade levels. While teachers need skills to address this issue, teens need exposure to effective critiques of pornography’s representations of gender and sex. Among the objectives of the Project team is to develop teaching materials that present diverse scenarios for classroom discussions that will enable young adults to distinguish between what they see depicted in porn and reality.

The overwhelming majority of parents believe their child has never seen pornography. However, a 2003 Australia Institute investigation citied in the Australian Age article cited above reported that 84 per cent of boys and 60 per cent of girls had access to sex sites on the internet. A 2006 Australian study of youths aged 13 to 16 found that 92 per cent of boys and 61 per cent of girls had been exposed to pornography online.

Of course, Republicans in this country might favor a simpler solution: Pass new laws banning pornography or otherwise make it nearly impossible for young people to gain access to it. Given the widespread availability of social media of all kinds in the wired culture of our age, a reliance on censorship does not seem promising (not to dwell on the consistency of such a Draconian tactic with that troublesome First Amendment in America). Good luck cutting off porn – shy of creating a police state. Better sex education is cheaper and quicker, more likely and better suited to personal liberties and sound education.

Everyone, including the young, needs a broad set of knowledge and critical thinking skills to reject a sexuality that eroticises degradation and violence, glorifies unrealistic body types (particularly large breasts and out-sized penises) and undermines relationship elements founded on respect, courtesy and the common decencies.

It is hard enough in the current climate of Right Wing evangelical Republican culture war wedge politics to gain acceptance for sex ed of any kind, let alone adding porn assessment to the mix. If a school board or individual educator in this country tried to address pornography, he or she would be cited by Santorum, Romney or Gingrich as an example of what’s wrong with Obamacare. Try dealing with this crisis only if willing to deal with a firestorm of controversy from the Right.

Yet, all evidence and the lessons from Prohibition and the Comstock era suggest that ignoring or trying to repress the pervasiveness of pornography as it affects youthful sexual expectations and behavior is pernicious and irresponsible.

In my view, we need to make clear as part of sex ed that porn has nothing to do with love. We dare not NOT speak its name – and dare NOT ignore the reality of pornography’s dreadful influence on the sexual miseducation of the young. If this upsets Republicans, well, that’s just too bad. If they had enjoyed better sex education, they might be more sensible about such things – and probably less interested in porn, as well.

Be weller than well, give ‘em hell and try always to look on the bright side of life.

The Top 7 Foods to Serve at an Adult Toy Party

Many different things have to be taken into consideration when it comes to planning an adult toy party. From displaying the merchandise to coming up with a series of fun and ice-breaking games to play, it’s important to cover all of your bases. If there’s one thing that you don’t want to overlook, it’s food. Having the right food can help make your party a smashing success. Below, you’ll find seven great foods to serve at adult toy parties.

Fruit Trays – Why should everyone who attends your party feel guilty about the fattening foods that they eat? By offering a fruit tray, you’ll give people a healthy option. Besides, there’s always some sort of delicious fruit in season. Serve with a special dip, or all alone!

Veggie Trays – Like fruit trays, veggie trays are healthy and flavourful ways to enhance the food choices at your adult party. Who doesn’t love carrots, celery, cherry tomatoes and other neat treats? Sliced up veggies are the perfect finger foods, and they’re definite crowd-pleasers as well. When artfully arranged, a veggie tray can actually brighten up a room, too!

Chocolate-Covered Strawberries – There is something undeniably decadent about chocolate-covered strawberries, which is why they are perfect for an adult party. Make sure to use high-quality chocolate to ensure a tasty treat.

Tortilla Chips and Salsa – If you have a knack for cooking, why not whip up some delicious homemade salsa? You could make mild, medium and spicy versions so that there’s something for everyone. Serve it up with some fresh tortilla chips and everyone is sure to love it!

Cheese and Crackers – Another foolproof combination is cheese and crackers. Invest in a variety of high-quality cheeses; choose a mixture of hard cheeses and soft cheeses to create a well-rounded selection. Make sure to offer several different types of crackers, too, so that people can come up with the combinations that are right for them. Few people will turn up their noses at cheese and crackers – it is a can’t-miss party idea.

Chicken Wings – Amid all of the fruits, veggies and cheeses, it’s smart to offer something from the meat category. Chicken wings are natural choices when it comes to party finger foods, since they are small and easy to nibble on. One caveat: Be sure to provide moist towelettes, especially if you serve barbecue chicken wings.

Kabobs – Finally, stuff skewers full of steak, chicken and a variety of different veggies to create mouth-watering kabobs. The guests at your party won’t be able to keep their hands off of these tasty treats – and they couldn’t be easier to prepare! It’s just one more way to add a dose of sophistication to your get-together.

What to Expect at Your First Adult Toy Party

Since they’ve become so incredibly popular, adult parties – especially ones that feature toys and other products – are being attended by more women than ever. If you’ve been thinking about going to one, but have held off because you just don’t know what to expect, you can get a basic idea by reading through the information below. Chances are, you’ll find that today’s adult toy parties are a whole lot different than you’d think.

It’s All About Fun

Firstly, although adult toys are often the main premise for throwing an adult party, the real reason that so many women enjoy these get togethers so much is because they are a lot of fun. Getting together with a lot of other women, nibbling on delicious appetizers and sipping on champagnes or cocktails are all a huge part of the allure of these parties. Being social is the main point of adult parties, so if you like being around other people and having a good time, you’re bound to have a blast.

Let the Games Begin!

No two adult parties are alike, but games are usually a part of the festivities. These games help those in attendance loosen up a bit, and allow them to get acquainted with one another. Usually, they are very silly and don’t involve any actual competition. The end result of the typical adult toy party game is a whole lot of laughter – especially when a decent amount of alcohol is flowing.

The Main Event

Once the games are through and everyone has had a chance to enjoy some food and drinks, the hostess of the adult party will usually unveil the toys that are for sale. Most of the time, she will have a special table set up, and will present them one by one. This way, women can ask questions as needed and can even handle the merchandise if they’d like to. Although there are many different party ideas for adults, the toys are always going to make an appearance at these parties. After all, they are the inspiration for adult toy parties!

Bring Home Something Fun

Even if you walk into an adult toy party feeling reticent, nervous or reluctant about making any purchases, after all of the ice breaking and festivities, you may end up bringing something fun home with you. There is usually a broad array of products for sale, from relatively tame ones to more risque choices. Remember to keep an open mind, and try to get into the spirit of things. This is a prime opportunity to learn more about adult toys without having to walk into a strange store, so don’t be afraid to pick something out and bring it home!

 

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Is My Husband Cheating: Is My Husband Cheating If He Only Wants to Watch Porn?

Is your husband watching porn to the point where it’s disturbing your marriage? Are you feeling insecure and highly pained by the idea of him lusting after other, possibly more beautiful women – when you’re begging and crying for his love and attention under the very same roof and in the very same bed he’s sleeping and possibly fantasizing and having erotic dreams about them in?

Pornography is easily accessible these days – I would even go so far as to say it’s almost mainstream. You can buy a girly mag in almost any supermarket, watch porn freely online, or even rent adult movies at the local video store so long as you’re 18 and up.

I usually am of the belief that a couple should dictate their own rules and regulations in terms of what is and is not acceptable in their marital bed. However, if your husband watches pornography, this can be a sticky topic. When is he watching too much porn? And when can it get to a point where it can – or does – affect your sex life together?

While it is not immediately conclusive that your husband’s pornography habits don’t immediately signal cheating, there is something to be said for your lack of comfort in his actions.

If his porn bothers you, examine why. Do you feel sexually compared to or intimidated by the women that he looks like? Do they look nothing like you – which puts you off because it seems as if he’s not into you sexually and physically? Are they doing things you would never desire to try out?

After figuring out what bothers you and why, determine how to talk to him about it and see how he responds. Hopefully he’s understanding but explains that porn is his way of enjoying himself without you – that it doesn’t even begin to reflect what he wants from you. Don’t be surprised if he becomes defensive or secretive; porn can make almost anyone feel put off guard because it’s such a taboo subject even its users don’t openly discuss it.

If he becomes secretive, then allow yourself to cool off and understand that he might be ashamed. Try to put it out your mind, and simply tell him you’d like to see him save some action for you since you’re ready and willing when he is. Being saucy about it allows him to feel less edgy.

Again, sexual desires are a private thing, so if anyone should know what pushes against positive or negative boundaries in your marriage, this should be kept between the two of you. I cannot personally dictate what’s too much or too little or even acceptable for you and your husband, but I can encourage you to communicate with him about your feelings.

I agree that too much porn can ruin a relationship – especially if your intimacy and sexual experiences become limited and few and far between. However, I would hesitate to say that your husband is cheating on you because of porn. Most people define cheating as a physical or emotional act. In the sense that he’s locking himself off to you, then yea, I can see this as a type of cheating – personally, I’ve dealt with this and it’s a painful situation. Most men aren’t aware of how their sexual actions with porn can shut us out, but I’ve rarely seen a guy whose into porn allow it to bring him to another live woman’s bed or really desire it. These men usually look at porn as a release… and some use it to actually curb physical desires.

Try to speak with him first and see how he reacts before you drive yourself nuts. If you feel he’s unwilling to change, or very defensive, then yes, it’s possible that he’s really wrapped up in pornographic and/or sexual addiction – but we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it. If he admits sexual interest in another woman or women, then yes, it’s possible there’s a link to his porn and his desires to cheat – but not that he IS cheating.

100% Free Adult Amateur Films

The free adult porn market is pretty much thriving these days and more and more sites pop-up in this industry every day. The vids which they host are virtually mind-blowing and folks like them. On every single free porn page can be found a specific number of categories that will help you look for the vids that you like the most.

The grouping that in some way seems to turn me on is the Amateur. Amateur 100% free porn vids are simply astounding – there are no words and phrases in any way to explain a home made video with you and your girl making love in the craziest way possible. I absolutely am into these clips and i confess that I check out them once in a while. From them fresh approaches can be mastered for pleasing your lover better. All of these 20min clips can actually be considered as being educational vids from where you are able to understand how to do it much better, how to protect yourself and what things you mustn’t do during intercourse.

Almost all free porn amateur vids possess a little something exclusive that makes them one of the most wished-for. Looking at how unprofessional folks start kissing, touching, undressing, looking at them how they’re making real love – this stuff can’t be found in not one other free porn category and i also consider that amateur vids are worthy of the 1st place in any cost-free adult porn category countdown.

What I enjoy the most about free porn amateur vids would be the approach they’re done: through the help of a cellphone or a digicam or even using the webcam of the Personal computer or laptop computer. What I enjoy a lot more is the fact that all those people who have sex on the camera post their video on the internet, on specialized free porn webpages which host this kind of clips and can earn some cash from it… very cool! Try out such a vid on your own and hit me up – inform me what you think of it and from a scale from 1 to 10, just how great the amateur category is.

Escalating Porn Addiction and Criminal Thoughts

Pre-Internet, young addicts would steal porn magazines from the top shelves of newsagents. Post-Internet – according to my 2 years of research into porn addiction – this is tame compared to what goes through their heads to do to act out their escalating pornography addictions. Many are becoming deeply scared of their own minds and addictions. One man wrote “I have deep dark desires that I wish to fulfil which are even stronger than my porn addiction.” Another man wrote “I am severely depressed. I am now having horrible thoughts of hurting myself and my girlfriend and doing horrible violent things in general. I am 24.”

Depending upon what they have been exposed to in their journey through the bowels of Internet pornography determines what they soon begin feeling compelled to do next when they have become desensitized with purely legal acting out behaviors. Many addicts at this stage fear their next bender could tip them over the edge into doing illegal things as they begin to find it harder and harder to disassociate from the porn world.

It starts with relatively “mild” fears such as a 19 year old who wrote “I’m frightened I’ll become a pervert when I grow up. I’ve been doing porn since I was 14″ to older addicts writing things such as “I now want to see women urinating on toilets after seeing a lot of urine porn and am scared I will act out by setting up a camera in a women’s toilet”. Another (white) man wrote “It’s gotten to the point where I now fantasise that I am a white woman being raped by multiple black men as well as being one of the rapists too.”

One female porn addict wrote “It’s escalating now to an obsession with putting myself in dangerous situations so I can be raped”. Another addict who had a history of physical and sexual abuse and being degraded as a child had the desire to be “killed at the hands of a lover”.

Another 18 year old man wrote “Only drowning and suffocating porn can satisfy me now. I fear I will become a serial killer and I doubt my morality.” Equally as disturbing were the words of a young student who wrote “I’ve got to the point now where bondage videos are not violent enough to satisfy me. I sit in class and think of strangling the woman in front of me.” This man was understandably banned off the forum he wrote this on but my question is “what happened to him?”… Did he ever act out his thoughts?

Another tormented porn addict wrote “Until I saw bestiality porn, I had never wanted to be sexual with an animal. I loved animals and was brought up with them. Now I am acting out with my own dogs and want to put them up for adoption so I can stop this sexual abuse. I want to be able to view my dogs as pets – nothing more. They deserve so much better than this. I’m at breaking point.”

Other escalating pornography addicts become obsessed with being in risky situations like exposing themselves and/ or masturbating in public places. Some addicts will masturbate in back rows of theatres or picture houses or in their car when they stop at the lights. It gives them the arousal they need to be able to reach a new peak that ordinary virtual porn can no longer give them as well as giving them adrenaline hits their addiction needs. One man was being driven by his addiction to expose himself to 10-15 year olds. He wrote “I already do this with women although I pretend I don’t know they can see me. I cannot believe how damaged I am. It happens a lot when I am under pressure or stressed. If I don’t “do the deed” I get very agitated, angry and frustrated. When I do it I get relief but then shame and anger set in and I just want to lock myself away.”

Another addict wrote “I’m so worried about going to jail over all my sexual urges and ideas of the things I want to do. I’m still in school and sometimes masturbate on the bus when the urge comes on me and I can’t control it. I’m scared it will get me into some kind of legal trouble. I then watch porn all night long.”

Other addicts – after watching incest porn – have tormenting urges around family members. One 29 year old addict wrote after watching “mother and son” porn… “In my dreams now, my mother is breast feeding me. I’ve become fascinated with her breasts and am scared I’m going to act out on it and touch or grab her breasts. I also want to take photos and videos of her breasts.” Another addict wrote “I watch mother and son porn, daughter and father porn and sister and brother porn. I escalated to this and am now having intrusive incestual thoughts about my mother and other family members. I am scared I am going to act out on them. I tell myself this is the last time I am going to watch porn due to where it is taking me but I always fall back into it again – the porn. I am scared. When I was younger I was exposed to porn and re-enacted what I saw with another boy and why I am scared now.”

Another terrified addict wrote “Since being exposed to brother/ sister rape porn I have had thoughts about raping my sister. I am heading down a very dangerous and horrible road. I don’t want to be a rapist or a murderer and I certainly don’t want to do this with my sister. Now I feel incredibly awkward around her and have no emotional attachment to her anymore. I fear in the future though that porn will not be enough for me and I may actually rape someone. I really don’t want to be a monster yet I fear that may happen in the future. I’m now, as a result, having frequent suicidal thoughts.”

More disturbing is when severely escalating addicts begin to find that “adult” porn – however depraved – is no longer a big enough of an arousal to satisfy their addiction’s needs so move closer and closer to illegal pornography. One addict wrote “I constantly feel paranoid as some sites have questionable videos of what look like underage girls”. Another wrote “I take myself to the edge of legal porn and then am enticed to 100% illegal material via links that come without warning. The crossover is done in a second. There is, bottom line, no safe way to look at porn. I have to completely disengage. It’s evil shit and makes me feel suicidal… I am a compromised human who has abandoned morality. We click in our own chains while weighing down our souls by feeding off the poisonous digital imagery of unspeakable misery of the most vulnerable in our world”.

One addict on the edge of legal and illegal porn wrote this “I’m paranoid I’ll open the wrong page and get arrested as I’m paranoid I’m being watched by Big Brother. I’m paranoid I’m turning into a dirty old man. It’s no fun anymore.”

Another wrote “I don’t feel safe with myself anymore.” Their fears are because once the crossover has taken place to child pornography, they feel they have truly become “monsters”. One man wrote “I feel like a monster by who I’ve become. I AM a monster”. Another wrote “This addiction is starting to frighten me more and more. Today I googled “12 to 15 year old lesbians”. I now feel sickened and can’t believe I searched for it. Urges that can put these sorts of fantasies in your brain are pure evil.” Another addict wrote “It’s getting worse. The other night I couldn’t sleep because I downloaded something illegal” whilst another said “I’ve escalated to child porn. If I don’t stop I will end up in suicide. I was abused as a child too… ”

One man wrote “I’m beginning to stare at teenagers. I try my hardest not to but it’s tearing me apart. God spare me from my worst. This disease is the pits.” Another addict wrote “I started using porn when I was 7 or 8 and am now 41 and it is destroying my life. It started off with your every day run of the mill porn but in the last 8-10 years it’s escalated. I find myself drawn more and more to younger girls to the point where I search out illegal child pornography images on the net. I live every day in hell, fear and self loathing. I feel like an out of control monster.”

Another addict wrote “during more difficult times in my life, I need much more hardcore porn to get the same effect and I’m finding more and more that illegal stuff is in my head. My self worth is almost non-existent. I’m 18. I also pull my hair out and ignore hunger. I watch porn daily.”

And then one day, addicts become desensitized to child pornography too and begin fantasizing about acting out with children. One man wrote “I’m beginning to get really strong urges to act out. Unless I get control of it soon I’ll end up in prison.” Another addict wrote “I role play in chat rooms where I talk about hitting young girls while they’re being raped. Every time I finish I’m always ashamed but then I dismiss it because it’s the Internet and there’s much worse stuff out there but I still feel weird. Daily I watch incest porn and violent sex porn like rape. I’m also attracted to 12-13 years olds now too. Not a soul knows about my dark secrets and all my friends think I’m completely normal.”

Professor Gail Dines, Professor of Sociology at Wheelock College in Boston, who has studied both pornography addicts and the pornography industry for decades and is author of the book “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality”, interviewed a number of men in prison who had committed rape on children and found that all the men were habitual users of child pornography. Dr Dines said in an interview with Julie Bindel of The Guardian (2nd July 2010) “What they said to me was they got bored with “regular” porn and wanted something fresh. They were horrified at the idea of sex with a pre-pubescent child initially but within 6 months they had all raped a child”.

Whether addicts escalate to child pornography, rape of children, rape of sisters, mothers or whomever, one thing is clear… pornography addiction always progresses to acting out behavior in one form or another.

Adult Toys – Uses and Care

There can be no denying that when it comes to sex, nothing beats the real thing. However, one cannot also ignore the popularity of several sex toys and the continued introduction of newer models to satisfy a demanding market. This market is growing and as such we should pay attention to how people integrate these items into their sex lives. You should be aware that sex toys can also be used to enhance your sex lives and bring you and your partner to a new level of closeness and intimacy.

Loosely defined, sex toys are devices meant to pleasure the user sexually, usually used on erogenous parts of the body. There are a lot of sex toys available in specialty shops and through the internet, though most condom retailers are offering a product called the vibrating ring.

Probably the most common and most popular sex toy is the vibrator. Majority of its users are women, and most admitted to curiosity as the primary reason for initial usage. Though some prefer to use vibrators in private, it can also be used with a partner. For heterosexuals, vibrators can be handy when the guy comes off too fast. It can also be a part of your foreplay, to arouse you and your partner to greater heights. In instances when the vibrator is shared, as in lesbian couples, slip a condom over it before inserting into the vagina and put a new one before handing it to your partner. Make sure that it is also properly cleaned before storing.

Dildos are also quite popular among the ladies, as they mimic the shape, texture, and size of a real penis, though they require considerably more effort than battery operated or rechargeable vibrators. Again, it would do some good if you slip on a condom over it before using, especially among lesbians who use it to pleasure their partners. And even if you are using it alone to masturbate, a condom would still be advisable unless you are pretty sure your storage place is totally devoid of germs and other irritants.

There is also one recently introduced product that is fast gaining a loyal following, the vibrating ring. It is a device that is slipped on the penis, and over a condom, and is used to enhance the pleasure of both partners. The vibrating ring has a small battery within the rubber casing. Women who have tried it claim of achieving multiple orgasms through the use of vibrating ring. And the best part of this is that men can take part of the action, too. A vibrating ring is known to extend the erection of the penis. It also has bumps and raised surfaces for heightened pleasure. And because it is stretchable, a vibrating ring can accommodate any size of penis. Vibrating ring users also revel in the fact that this device is portable, easily concealed and thus can be carried almost anywhere.

Though the use of sex toys to achieve self-gratification is an effective method of birth control, don’t think it will turn you away from the pleasure of real, consensual sex. With the availability of contraceptives and protective devices such as condoms and pill, sex is and will always remain to be life’s most enjoyable activity. However, there is still no denying that dildos, vibrators, and the vibrating ring afford much pleasure to their users and will continue to enjoy great popularity.

6 Explosive Adult Toys for Beginners

If you have never known the joy of plastic, silicone, injection moulding, and what happens when you combine it all with a little whirring motor… you’re in for a treat! For those who have never experienced adult toys, it can be a strange and unusual world. Start small – here we look at some of the best toys for beginners.

Lubes and lotions

If you’ve never used a sex toy, it’s also highly possible you’ve never experienced the joy of lubricant… which makes everything that you’ve done dozens of times before magically feel heaps better! Go for cheap and easily available water-based lube, long-lasting silicone, or exotic warming and cooling lotions. Just make sure you use ‘protection’ for your

Lingerie

You know where your most powerful sexual organ is located… between your ears. And no, it isn’t your nose! Lingerie can help you see yourself, or your partner, in a different light, and is a gentle introduction to toys.

Cyberskin Toys

If you’re new to the idea of using things other than human bits in your playtime, Cyberskin is a fantastic way to start. It has an ultra-realistic feel, and isn’t necessarily as intimidating as glittery purple plastic!

Egg and Bullet Vibrators

These tiny little gems of joy are discreet and easy to use. Because egg and bullet toys are so small, they fit right in with whatever you’d usually do – just adding a little buzz to the experience. Most have varying speed levels built in… and if you’re into the ‘shared secret’ experience, you can also get remote control vibrating knickers or insertable eggs, which your partner can turn on and off at will while you’re out in public.

Cock rings

For guys that haven’t had much experience with sex toys, cock rings can be a great place to start. Choose a cock-only ring to start with, as opposed to a cock-and-balls ring. Cock rings will help you last a little longer and get more pumped up.

Dildo Vibrators

These toys combine the best of both worlds, both standard and vibrating stimulation. If you want to buy your first toy to last, choose a vibrating dildo!

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